So What?

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So What?

My problem is that I spend too much time on political discussion forums that have been taken over by the so-called "moralists" who have decided that all Americans are now divided into two groups. An imaginary wall has been built and all the good Americans are on the right side and the bad Americans are on the left.

These moralists have little depth in their thought processes and need to bring every thought down to a first grade level.

To debate with these moralists is nearly impossible when many of use see people in terms of their past experiences, their present position in life and their future plans. Age also plays into this thought process and it becomes clear that the older people get the more fiscally conservative they become.

It's the social issues that seem to divide the American citizen today. The big social problem we have today is that of drugs and alcohol. Prior to the sixties I don't remember that drugs were ever a major problem in our neighborhoods. I knew of many returning service men in the 40s who were stationed in the Asian/Pacific area and many came home drugged up pretty good. They sampled the intoxication of losing all sense of self, experience and pain and off they went to la la land. They either died or dried-up.

These feel good drugs began showing up in our society and the argument used to be "did the hippies bring the drugs, or did the drugs bring the hippies?"

The one thing we learned was that drugs and alcohol lowered the inhibitions of many young Americans and the entire generation became turned on and then dropped out of our world of American sanity.

We made our first mistake expecting the federal government to handle all the drugs being brought into our country. The family, neighborhoods and churches should have taken control and with peer pressure and just plain strong rules in the home and church these drugs would have ever taken such a strong hold on our country.

The quick dollar made by dealing was too much for the neighborhood punk and many politicians too. Nearly every drug deal that has passed into American hands had to have had permission from high up in our government to be so overlooked by our border patrols. So how did we handle this? Our federal government declared a War on Drugs! Excuse me, I have to burp.

Many families in my area took the bit in our teeth ourselves and put an imaginary fence around our kids and made a pact with many other families that we would always be home, never serve alcohol, never allow drugs in our homes when the kids were visiting. I had a big old barn of a house and we had horses, most of the weekends were sleep-overs for city kids who found my horses, dogs, cats, chickens a fun place to be.

Many other families just figured the government was going to take the responsibility so they could relax. Wrong move!!

Drugs are a social issue. The federal government has no authority to search our homes, remove our computers and other paraphernalia from our offices and have no right to book our kids for using drugs. If Americans have a problem that they cannot handle with drugs, they should be looking to their county and state law enforcement not to the feds!!! Personally, I blame the federal government for the problem in the beginning.

When the citizens break the law to feed their drug habit, then that is a different story. The local law enforcement is there to put them away according to the law they broke. Drugs, so what!

Pornography is a social issue. The federal government has no authority to search our homes, censor our television shows, movies, art galleries, theaters etc. Oh, my, how the moralists scream when nudity raises its ugly head in any picture or gallery. It was explained to me that nudity brings lust and lust is a sin. I explained to my friend never to visit the Sistine Chapel and look up!

Being in a dressing room with hundreds of nude actors dressing for a production has certainly taken the lust out my life for these focused men who are only trying to remember their entrances and lines. Of course, my own harpy voice whispering, "did you put a tee-shirt on under that costume? I don't want you to get it sweaty!" No lust here, for sure!

How much harm does pornography do anyway? Our minors have wonderful inventive imaginations that may do much more harm than a photograph or drawing. Pornography? So what!

Prostitution is a social issue. I would like to ask every single woman in America that she didn't get truly in the mood and love her man all night when she wanted a new coat or car. I rest my case on prostitution. Selling one's body to a stranger makes it less moral? I really don't know or care. So what!

The threat of homosexuals taking our boys away! I kid you not; this is a social issue that has most of the moralists hysterical! There is a terrible fear that all our sons are born normal female-loving men and some pervert will show them something better to do with their private parts.

The fathers in the American moralist household are terrified of the mention of the word HOMOSEXUAL! When I first discovered that many Americans preferred their partners to be the same sex, I headed for the library to look this up. I discovered some interesting facts.

Apparently in the old days of the Greeks and Romans, it was a popular occupation for the men to sleep with each other or have pages (male interns) to take with them for obvious reasons. These fighting men and gladiators would never put their women in harms way by bring them into a field of conflict.

Many men prefer the company of other men. I've certainly seen a lot of this in the art world. Many men simply do not like the company of women! So what!

Let me share an experience with you. My husband and I had been married for several years and discovered a wonderful scat singer by the name of Anita O'Day was performing in a club in Tarzana. Off we went and had a wonderful evening of the old songs that this gal had made famous for years. Neither of us realized that it was a gay bar. One very handsome man walked over and put his arm around my husband who freaked! They ended up in the alley and were beating the hell out of each other. I got the car and drove around the back and forced the old boy into the back seat and drove away laughing so hard I could hardly see.

He wasn't hurt just outraged! A year or so later we were sitting at a bar in North Hollywood listening to a great guitarist when a good look man approached me and asked if I wanted to dance. I politely refused and turned my back on him. He literally spun my bar stool around and grabbed me in a bear hug. My husband sat there looking smug. He made no move. Wearing 3-inch heels I dug into this idiot between his very masculine legs and gave him a good one. I stormed out of the bar and got in the car. I was about to drive home when Papa Bear decided to see where I had gone. I was furious that he didn't come to my defense. He explained that he was flattered that someone found his woman attractive.

Any fool can see the difference between having one of their sons (or even themselves) being in a nasty predicament, but when the wife is the victim, it seems to be acceptable. My husband was a moralist and was put in this earth to protect his sons.

That may have been the most valuable lesson I ever learned about human nature and the difference between men and women. I trained my daughters to be very aware of this flaw in men and never depend on their protection when in any predicament anywhere. Learn to stand up for yourselves 24 hours a day. Teach your daughters this lesson early in life.

The fear of homosexuals by our men is totally ridiculous and may be an indication of their own fear that their own masculinity may not be that strong. When I hear these gay-bashing men, I say - so what?

The last but not the least of the moralists problems is the big "A" Abortion. For some reason this subject divides many families and becomes a fight between men and women. I believe it is plainly obvious that after giving birth to 5 or 6 kids, the woman does not automatically "turn off" to the advances of her mate.

Of course, to many moralists, having sex without planning a new baby is fornication! To the rest of us, it is a normal experience to be enjoyed without the fear of pregnancy. Even with the best of intentions, many women find themselves "in the family way." I've seen many loving couples turn into snarling pit bulls when this happens with the husband blaming it all on his wife, who when asked, does not want or intend to have another child in the family.

The moral aspect of this decision is one between the mother, father, church and the law. At this time, the federal government has made the procedure legal. I am uncomfortable with this as I don't feel this is within the authority of the federal government at all. If anything it should be a state law. The federal government should not be paying for this procedure and the whole thing taken out of the fed's hands.

The moralists want a constitution amendment to arrest all the women on a murder charge and put them in federal prisons!!! Putting a million women in prison is ludicrous and will never be accepted by the voters of America. If a women has had enough children under her care, or if she is raped, or if her life is in danger, let her have the damn abortion, so what!

What it amounts to is that the American moralists cannot take control of his own family or neighborhood. He apparently has lost faith in his church and wants most of the legislation to come from the federal government

He doesn't like what is being taught in the classroom of his kids but won't lift a finger to change it. He wants the federal government to do it.

He is unhappy and upset with what is being shown on television. He refuses to turn it off and wants the federal government to set his standards for him.

But the single most annoying aspect in dealing with these moralists that if one dares to request a debate about any of these items, one is verbally thrown over the fence and is immediately labeled "one of those bad Americans on the left."

My answer to them is SO WHAT!

I managed to get through my life, raise my kids, find my political point of view without indulging in drugs, pornography, prostitution, abortion and never had a homosexual affair. For those who are different, so what!